To get the best help for your situation, first answer the questions on the Preliminary questions page.
Divorce or separation
Consideration of the decision
Identify violence and threatening situation
Feelings of fear, insecurity or threat are not part of an equal and safe divorce or separation. If you experience any form of violence, threat or fear in the divorce or separation situation, seek help and support.Â
You should also seek help if you are afraid that you are acting violently.
Do this in a threatening situation
If you experience an acute threat of violence or are a victim of violence:
- Call the emergency number 112.
- Seek refuge with a loved one or go to a shelter. You can find the contact details of your nearest shelter at the Nettiturvakoti (Online shelter).Opens in a new window.
Apply for support in dealing with experiences related to violence
You can get support and help fromÂ
- the social welfare service at your place of residence
- NollalinjaOpens in a new window..Â
How do I tell my violent spouse about the divorce or separation?
It is important to ensure your own safety:
- Tell your spouse or partner about the divorce or separation decision when you are not alone with your spouse. Ask someone close to be there.
- If you divorce or separate at home, draw up a safety plan for the situation
- Prepare for leaving the home, for example by packing a safety bag.
You can also go to a shelter and notify your spouse or partner of the decision to divorce or separate from the shelter. The shelter provides discussion and advice on issues related to domestic and intimate partner violence.
You can ask for advice on safe divorce or separation from Victim Support Finland, the Online Shelter or Nollalinja.
When you are considering divorce or separation
When you are in a relationship, it is natural to experience difficult times and have thoughts about breaking up. Thoughts can be based on a variety of things, such as different values or infidelity.
- Consider whether the problems could be solved otherwise than by divorce or separation.
- Discuss the thoughts about divorce or separation with your partner. The divorce or breakup process will probably be easier if it is based on a mutually considered decision.
- If you are unable to solve your problems with each other, seek outside assistance.